The Findom Cycle

June 13, 2020 YourMoneySlave Comments 0 Comment

I have been a moneyslave for more than 10 years now, and sometimes I like to sit back and take a look at my actions from an “external” point of view: it’s interesting to find common paths that happen over and over the years, some common sequence of events that characterize me as a moneyslave.

There is one in particular that I can see repeating itself over and over, almost daily in some periods, it’s the one I like to call: The Findom Cycle.

It’s for sure nothing that anyone into financial domination for a while doesn’t know about yet, but perhaps it will be interesting to describe its phases to those that still didn’t notice it.

1 – The Caution

Every moneyslave starts by trying to be cautious: we always believe we can hold back, we can control ourselves. So we kinda look at our Goddess (or more than one) from a distance, taking brief looks at their pictures, briefly reading their messages on Twitter, but always ending up with a reason to don’t spend. With a reason why we should just look away and get on with our life. How long this work for changes from slave to slave and, more important, from period to period. There are certain periods of my life where I can be cautious for a few days only before going to the next phase, other times I can stay longer. It all depends on many different things: from the situation in my real life, till how satisfactory (and expensive) was my last session and yes, also the kind of “signals” I get from Goddesses (for a clear example, read my article about how “Variety triggers me“.

As time goes by though, we all start to feel the urge of a session, of a tribute. That little voice in our head saying “come on, why not? Isn’t it what you really want to be happy?”. Perhaps we try to fight this little voice for a while…but soon enough the next phase happens.

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2 – The Enjoyment

That’s it. Enough being cautious. Enough holding back. We embrace our nature, we need to do what we desire the most. Looking at our Goddess (or at Goddesses) has a different meaning now, we NEED a session, we NEED a small thing that “ticks” our desire, that makes us do that final step, that makes us embrace what we are and makes us crawl at a Goddess to beg for a session. It can be a twit, a picture, something she says, a particular moment of our life…we are basically only looking for a pretext. For a reason to send a tribute or have a session. And when that happens, we fully enjoy our fetish. We are money slaves and, at that moment, we are totally happy with our nature. The session happens, the drain happens, our happiness starts from now and lasts till the session… or even a bit more actually.

3 – The Day After

And then there is the day after. What happens after a drain session? How do we feel when we cool down? How do we feel thinking back at what we did? Well, it depends. We don’t all react the same way, and we don’t react each time the same way. But I can bet that most of the time, we regret what we did. We regret the big-spending, the big weakness, the uncontrollable desire to send money. It’s what we love, it’s what made us happy during the session but… then there are real-life consequences. Could I have spent that money in a better way? Could have I saved them for later? Why did I have to spend them all in such a short time?

Anyway, the last phase usually doesn’t last long. Unless we are in one of those life moments for a money slave when we say “ok fuck it, I need to stop all this forever”, the regret doesn’t last more than a day or two. After that, usually, the first phase comes back… in the never-ending Findom Cycle.

Money is meant to be spent, don’t hold back

May 14, 2020 YourMoneySlave Comments 2 comments

Everything about Financial Domination starts (and ends) with money. This is quite an obvious fact: we get excited when we pay the Domme, when she takes money from us or when she abuses our weaknesses to bring us in giving her more and more. The dilemma is always the same: how much should we spend?

Giving her everything

In a perfect financial domination relationship, the slave gives everything to his Goddess, leaving her all the control on what he can or cannot spend. If he can eat, if he can buy some clothes. Everything. But this is very rare, not many of us can commit to such a life.

Giving only what’s left

The opposite way is the safest one: you define a budget you are willing to spend and stick to it. With no exceptions. That way, you can perfectly live your financial domination relationship while still living a normal life. More often than not this starts as a good idea, and soon enough we fail to apply it. The urge to spend is too high, our self control too low. Moreover, this is also not exciting: the danger to spend too much is part of what we find exciting, let’s don’t deny it.

Always spend more than you planned

It may look too risky perhaps, but this is probably the best way to live Financial Domination. Try to plan your expenses but…don’t hold back. If giving to your Goddess makes you feel good, by all means, go for it. There are people who spend thousands of euros on vacations, others spend it on sports cars, on clothes, shoes…so why can’t we spend a lot on what makes us feel better? Are there some risks in this? Sure there are, the same risks people take when they buy a new car which is far from a safe budget. But they still do. Because money is meant to be spent on things that make us feel good. Never hold back, go for it and you won’t have regrets.

And you? How do you live your financial domination?

8 ways you can STILL have online sessions while stuck at home with your wife (updated, were 5!)

March 27, 2020 YourMoneySlave Comments 2 comments

This post has been updated since its first release, with a few ideas sent by readers of this blog and followers on Twitter

Probably the vast majority of married slaves out there are facing now a huge problem: they are locked up at home with their wives, and serving their Goddess seems impossible.

While surely this won’t be an easy task for anyone, I thought of making a list of the methods I came up with, after ages of experience in online sessions while being married.

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1. Lock yourself in the bathroom

This is probably the oldest method to hide from your wife, and it almost never fails. Of course, you are limited to use your mobile phone to have the session with your Goddess, but at least you have some time for yourself. This doesn’t work well if you are used to leaving the bathroom door unlocked all the time (crazy!) or if you are one of those who are always very quick in there (how you do that, I’ll never know)

2. Go to bed early

Yes, this can be an easy solution. When is the only time your wife isn’t around? During the night when she sleeps. So why not wake up in the middle of the night, like 3 am, and have a session with your Goddess?

Little problem here is that your Goddess also has to be around at that time, so check that up first. But if she’s available to have a late-night session, or if your timezone difference makes this even more possible, by all means, go for it.

3. Lock your wife in another room

A bit extreme but, if played right, it can actually work! Pretend the door lock is suddenly broken, or that you wanted to make a prank to her but it got wrong because the lock got broken. Then, all in panic, pretend you call someone to fix the door, and that it will take them 1 hour or more to get there since everything is locked up because of the Corona Virus. The perfect solution for a longer session, although it can’t be repeated more than once I guess. It works best if you can lock her in the kitchen or in any other room where it won’t be too hard for her to spend one hour (hint: a television should be present), that way she won’t shout at you for too long.

4. Find her an online lover

You need to be careful here since this could backfire big time when the lockdown is finished. A way to have time on your own is to keep her as much busy as possible so…why don’t you find someone who can pretend to hit upon her? It works better if he’s handsome and even better if you can trust him (unless you want to get rid of her for good!). Once she will start flirting with him, she will spend more and more time on her mobile, probably as much away from you as possible, giving you plenty of time to spend with your Goddess. As weird as this sounds, it can actually work in giving you the little bit of privacy that you desperately need.

5. Pretend you need to be isolated from her

Ok, this is maybe not a very serious method…but let’s just pretend we are serious. Works only during a pandemic but hey, that’s where we are now! Just tell her you’ve been in the same room with a person that was discovered having the Corona Virus and, for her safety, you need to be totally isolated from her for 14 days. You need your own room and bathroom for this, but for the next 14 days, she won’t be able to be in touch with you, giving you plenty of time to have as many sessions as you want!

6. Watch a movie she hates

It’s quite common to sit down and watch a movie after dinner, before going to bed. But what if you decide to watch something your wife hates? Like a horror movie? If you stick to it, she will most probably go to bed, leaving you all the time in the world to go and visit your Goddess.

7. Take long bike rides

This can be done only if the situation in your country allows that, but if it does… go out for a bike ride, look for a secluded park bench, get your smartphone and…enjoy some time with your favorite Goddess!

8. Wake up early

Does your wife usually wakes up late, especially now that she’s not working? Perfect! Wake up early and enjoy some long, long, long time for yourself. Well, better said…time for your Goddess!

Of course, this post doesn’t really pretend to have the right solution for your specific situation, but I hope it will give you some ideas. While this pandemic goes on, we must try to live it as best as possible so for us, online slaves, it becomes mandatory to find a way to still go online while the wife is home. What’s your method? why don’t you tell me here in the comments section how you are hiding your sessions from your wife in this quarantine times?

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Choosing a Goddess to serve

November 28, 2019 YourMoneySlave Comments 0 Comment

I know many will say “slaves have no power, they are just there to serve Goddesses”, and I know many Goddesses (especially the “wannabe” ones) will believe that. To them, a slave exists only to serve ANY Goddess, no matter what she looks like, say or do.

Well let me open your eyes: this is NOT true. We, slaves, do have one power, and it’s one of the most important ones for you to become our Goddess.

We choose which Goddesses to serve

There is simply no way a Goddess can be the right one for every slave: each one of us has different tastes, different fantasies, different things that make him “going”. And because I get dozen of messages from basically ANY kind of Goddess, I thought of writing a post about the process I usually go through before I become a slave of one particular Goddess.

How she looks like

This is the very first factor that drives my attention toward a Goddess. And it’s not just about her body, it’s also about her dressing style. I have a fetish for feet in nylons (especially pantyhose) so if, say, I look into her Twitter and see she never wears stockings and pantyhose or doesn’t like them, I just move away. Nylons are important to me and more important is that She wears them because She wants and likes to, not just because I like them. One “plus” for me is also if she seems to have many different outfits that she uses. Too often some girls are always showing the same clothes, making it look like they are sort of wearing a “uniform to go to work”. I prefer a woman who loves to put different stuff on, making me think she enjoys getting ready before starting her domination session.

Her attitude

After I’m intrigued by the way She looks, I start following her on social media or camsites, if she works on one with free cam shows. This way, I can get a better understanding of the kind of Goddess She is. Is she aggressive? Is She mean? Does she seem to be enjoying what she does? Does she seem bored? Is she funny? There isn’t a “list” of things I like or don’t like here. Each Goddess is different, and I might like one for a reason, another one for the very opposite of that. So let’s say that I more or less try to understand if her attitude “makes me going” or it’s so bad that simply makes me forget I like the way she looks.

My first approach

If I’m still interested in Her, of course, the next step is approaching Her. Let me be clear here: I try to NEVER waste her time, and ALWAYS have total respect for Her and Her valuable time. So my approach is never like talking hours with Her for free or making her waste tons of time on social media. A few comments here and there on pictures I like, some engagement on Her posts, some small talk in free chat. Nothing else. Just to let Her know I exist so that when I will go for a session I won’t be someone she never heard about. Usually, nothing goes wrong here, because I don’t expect much from Her. I know they are all super busy, and I know the proper way of making myself noticed is with a tribute. But some of them are better than others, and they end up engaging a bit with me. Even a short reply to my messages can be nice, makes me feel like she’s aware of what’s happening around her, she’s not just sitting there waiting for sessions. That’s a nice thing.

The first session

Now it’s time to have my first session with Her: I’m interested in Her, I like how she looks, how she dresses, how she engages and behaves…sure I want to be at her feet!

And yet… sometimes it happens that only during the first session I understand She’s not one for me. Of course, I don’t expect her to magically understand all of me in just one session or the very first session to be perfect.. but there are a few things here and there that can be a total turn off for me. I don’t even know how to describe them, because every session is different…but if they happen, that will be my first and last session with her. It happened more than a few times, unfortunately.

Wrapping up

So this is the “process” I follow each time I spot a Goddess I didn’t know before. It may seem odd or too complicated but…believe me, every (serious) slave does the same. We all want to have the best experience ever, and there are thousands of potential Goddesses out there. The least we can do is choose wisely….don’t you think?

Sex is overrated.

October 27, 2019 YourMoneySlave Comments 0 Comment

Did the title catch your attention? I hope so, because I will try to explain better what I mean, and I do hope to have your full attention. Not sure if many slaves will agree on me about this, but I’m kinda curious about it.

What does excite me?

That’s where this all idea started. I started questioning myself what is that gets me going, what excites me, what…well…what makes me hard the most.

And you will probably say “Come on, it’s findom. We know that”. Wrong. It’s not JUST findom, it’s findom done in a certain way, it’s something more than findom or, to be precise, something BEFORE findom.

The teasing.

A woman, self-confident, perfectly aware of the effect She has on men, perfectly aware of what makes me weak, that slowly starts doing things that get me going.

A shoe slowly coming off the foot, then dangling from the tip of her toe. Her legs flexing back and forth, to expose all their length and beauty. The noise of nylons rubbing together. That knowing smile on her face, while she looks right into my eyes. Her tongue slowly going all over her lips. Her sexy walk on those high heels, with her body perfectly balanced on them. The tone of her voice: calm, relaxed and yet tremendously sexy.

All these things lead me to be so excited, so hypnotized by her, so eager to see her doing more of that stuff….that I end up losing control, and at that point sending more money only excites me even more. That’s the moment when Findom comes in place.

What about sex?

Everyone says how great sex is, how they couldn’t live without it. Apparently, no one can be happy without sex, no couple can survive if sex isn’t amazing and perfect. There is no way one can be fulfilled without sex…but is that really true? Do we really all think like this?

To me, sex is like going to the gym. Lots of physical activity, lots of sweating, you feel tired afterward and…while you are at it, do you actually enjoy it? Sorry but I don’t. I don’t need my penis inside a vagina to feel pleasure, I don’t need to do all those exercises to be satisfied. Hell, sometimes I don’t even need to cum to be totally happy!

Is this selfish? Yes, it is. I know that a woman probably needs sex more than I do to be satisfied. And I do have sex with my wife…but that doesn’t mean I find it more exciting than being teased. Is this weird? Probably, but who cares? I’ve been called a weirdo for many other things!

Am I the only one?

I’ve been asking myself quite a lot and, frankly, this is also one of the reasons why I wrote this post. The fact that I would rather be teased than have sex, doesn’t feel totally right. I have complete respect for Women (obviously, being a slave) so their pleasure should always come first, but instead I’m being way too much selfish in feeling like this.

But then again…is this something I can control? Can you teach someone to like chocolate if he does not?

So yes, the main question here is… am I the only one who would rather be teased till he cums, instead of actually have sex? Can you help me understand this, guys?

Goddesses that get on my nerves: the definitive list

October 5, 2019 YourMoneySlave Comments 2 comments

Not all Goddesses are born equal: there is a large variety of them out there. Some may appeal to a certain type of slaves, some to another. Some may have a certain kind of beauty, some others a different one. It’s the beauty of life: to each his own.

But there are some kinds of Goddesses that I really can’t stand. They just get on my nerves, making me almost want to kick them in the ass. I thought of writing a list here and, just as we are clear, I’m talking about those that are part of a larger group, identified as… InstaGoddesses!

The InstaOrder

I don’t know if they had problems when they were kids, or if they are simply angry with the whole world. But how the fuck do you think to get ANY sort of attention from a slave if you contact him, out of nowhere, with messages like “Spoil me, stupid pig” or the infamous “Pay me, loser!“. I mean COME ON! I know you are in a rush to become rich in the easiest possible way, but could you at least say “hello” first? You know, just to be A BIT polite…just to show there is some life in that brain of yours! Brainless.

The InstaBeg

Chats with them usually are a bit longer, as they seem to have a more cautious approach. I don’t know, it’s like they are trying to guess if the one they are talking to has money to throw away…or if they are trying to be a bit nice to gain better results. Anyway, they will always end up saying things like “I’m broke, I need money” or “Please, I need some money“. Sometimes I even got “I’m hungry and don’t have money for food”. All of them, of course, having names on twitter like “Goddess”, “Queen”, “Royal” and so on. It’s as if Donald Trump would call himself Greta Thunderg while still saying the shit he says about climate change. It just doesn’t make sense! Call yourself differently… don’t know.. “hungry puppy”, “cute by broke”, “broke kitty”…perhaps you’ll get better results. No, you won’t, I’m kidding. Pathetic.

The InstaHi

These are just plain idiots. I’m sorry but that’s what they are. They will send you a “Hi” message…then if you answer after, say, a few hours…they will completely forget they contacted you first and answer again with a “Hi”. I swear a few times I managed to go back and forth like 3 or 4 times before she would finally realize and act all angry with a very dominant and intelligent “so who are you”. Hopeless.

The InstaInsult

Well, I believe in this case we are facing probably just the least educated form of a human being. Because I don’t know how else anyone would believe the correct way to approach anyone (not just a slave) is with things like “hey bitch”, “hey piglet”, “hey dickhead” and so on. If you do get results like this please tell me because I need to learn from you. Rude.

The InstaSpam

Not very different from the usual spam we all get into our inboxes daily. They have a message that says everything (like “pay me bitch use this and that method or this other one, see my pics here, get in touch with me like this” and so on) and they simply can’t be bothered to have real conversations. They just send that message to everyone, hoping some idiot would end up sending some money. Again…there surely is an idiot between me and them. Either I’m the one and they are some sort of findom-marketing geniuses or…. else. Boring.

The InstaTeen

They are honestly almost scary. It doesn’t matter how they contact me or what they say: when I check their profile and I see that they are like 16 years old… I just freeze. Not even sure of what to do. Usually, I just block them and run away from my PC screaming “I’m not a pedophileeee”…just in case, you know. Dangerous.

Damn…that made me feel better! Now that I’ve written them all down here…I feel relieved! And you? Which type of instadomme gets on your nerves?

Middle finger, “L” sign and…Instadommes

August 22, 2019 YourMoneySlave Comments 1 comment

If you read this blog since a while, you know how I HATE instadommes, especially for the waste of time they are for me and other real slaves that get flooded with identical messages on Twitter.

Why I hate instadommes

One of the things I hate the most about them is how they are acting ALL in the SAME way, like if there would be a rule “do this and slaves will magically pay you”.

A typical instadomme will:

Approach you without you even knowing who She is
Treat you like shit
Demand for money after not even 2 messages
Block you if you refuse

Sometimes it may happen that they don’t contact you, but you stumble upon them while browsing Twitter…it’s kinda easy to spot them.

About the middle finger and the “L” sign

Do you know what’s the easiest way to spot an Instadomme? Just view her content posts one by one: most probably in every video she shoots, she will end up with an “L” sign or a middle finger…or even both!!! And I mean EACH AND EVERYONE.

Now, don’t get me wrong. I know Financial Domination, sometimes, it’s also about humiliation and some slaves want to be treated that way…but you are acting ridiculously by doing this in every single video!

First of all: not every slave wants to be treated the same.

Second: a REAL Financial Domination Goddess is, first of all, a Lady with capital “L”. She’s well educated, elegant, smart, intelligent. How many of those words do you think go well with her doing a middle finger or the “L” sign? Exactly: NONE.

I mean… would you ever imagine Goddess Ishtar showing her middle finger or making the “L” sign in every single video she makes?

How many times have you seen her doing it?

And now answer this question: is she a successful domme, that submits slaves of every kind? Let me answer this one for you: Yes, She’s one of the best out there because She KNOWS what she’s doing and She’s not here just for the money.

A message for instadommes

Financial Domination can have many forms, and surely no slave is equal to another (to a certain extent). By doing all the same damn thing, all the dam time, you are just showing that you know NOTHING about this world and you are here just to grab some money.

My proposal to you? Go back where you came from, you are just an annoying waste of time for all of us, real slaves and real dommes.

Thank you.

What my first real-time session taught me

June 10, 2019 YourMoneySlave Comments 0 Comment

After about one year since my first (and only, so far) real-time financial domination session, I can surely say that my experience that night could be helpful to others who are considering having a real-time session.

It’s not like I can consider myself like an expert in real-time financial domination, or someone who knows everything about it. On the contrary: I only had one experience (this one), and I was lucky it all went amazingly with Goddess Ishtar. Many things could have gone wrong, many things I didn’t expect to happen as they did. I wish I would have been prepared somehow…so I can write down here a few things that could perhaps help others before their first real-time financial domination experience.

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You will be nervous

Remember the first day at school? The first date with the girl of your dreams? The first day in a new workplace? The tension, the nervousness, your hands shaking, your breathing getting heavier and more difficult, your sweating increasing. Well, multiply that by a hundred times and you’ll be closer to how you will feel.

You can be the most self-confident man ever, you can try to be prepared to that moment for as long as you want…but when you’ll look at the clock and the time of your session with Her will be approaching… you’ll feel nervous. And it’s not like that feeling will go away easily even after she arrives. You won’t know what to do, what to say, how to move, how to stand or sit down. The moment you’ve been waiting for since a lifetime is right there, finally happening. The Goddess of your dreams is there with you. You can hear her, you can look at her, you can see her as you’ve never been able before. And that, trust me, is a sensation like no other.

So what do you do? Easy…let her guide you. If you selected carefully the Goddess to have this first real-time session with, she will surely be way more self-confident than you. She will most probably be having fun, a casual fun that she had many other times. She won’t be nervous at all, just enjoying that moment as one of the many similar moments she had before. Even if, perhaps, she’s not that used to real-time sessions, for sure she will be way more confident than you. Let her do the talking, let her guide you that night. Do what She asks, and as time goes by you’ll learn that this will help you relax a bit, and finally starting to enjoy the moment as you should.

You won’t be able to escape her

Forget about switching your computer off. Forget about pretending your wife is approaching and you have to go. Forget about all the excuses you created ever since you started having online sessions. It’s just you and Her now. If you run away now, rest assured that she won’t have anything to do with you anymore. You want to stay there with her, You want this moment to never end. There is no escape this time, no escape like never before. This is different from any sessions you ever had as there is literally no escape whatsoever.

It will be expensive

If you’ve read my post about that night (and how I managed to convince Her) you already know how expensive that was for me. I spent that night more or less the same I spent in one year only. And believe me…it will be the same for you. If your Goddess will ever agree to meet you, it will also be because She will get something special in return. We are money slaves remember? Money is what we crave to give Her. And if She gives us the privilege to meet Her…well then we must show Her our appreciation. Trust me, it will be the most expensive experience you ever had.

It will be intense

It took me months to start enjoying online sessions again after that night. No online session can ever be as intense as a real-time financial domination session. Nothing can be compared to being right there, in front of Her. Nothing can be compared to Her whispering in your ear “give me more”. Nothing can be compared to Her having your own smartphone in her hands while taking money from your bank account. Or your own wallet, your own credit card. Nothing can be as intense.

You will want to do that again

This is something I didn’t expect. I really thought that, after such an intense and expensive experience, I would have thought “ok it was just a one-time thing, not gonna happen again”. Well…ever since that day, I have been craving for that to happen again. Of course, I know that it will be almost impossible to do that again (way too expensive)…but the craving for it won’t stop. I did start enjoying online sessions again, and surely I’m back spending and having fun online…but that night. That night with Goddess Ishtar can’t be compared to anything else. The only thing it can maybe be compared with is…another real-time sessions.

I won’t stop thinking about that night, now or never. But these are all the things that came to my mind after one year. And I do hope some of you guys will find them useful, especially if you are considering having your first real-time financial domination session with the Goddess of your dreams (whoever she might be).

Are you considering having your first real-time session? Did you already have one? Feel free to share your thoughts here in the comments.