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If you want to be a Goddess, DON’T look cheap

If you want to be a Goddess, DON’T look cheap

First of all, let me say that I’m not quite sure if I already wrote about this matter in the past, but I’m simply too angry to go and check. I just NEED to cool it off by writing it down.

If you want to be considered a Goddess online, don’t look f***ing cheap. Don’t ACT cheap. Don’t DRESS cheap. Don’t TALK cheap. Don’t THINK cheap.

Let’s stop looking at this from the slave/Goddess perspective point of view, and for a moment let’s talk about what you all are really doing here.
What you are doing online is a form of entertainment (one of the best ones, in my opinion), you are making me live a dream, a fantasy. You are actually SELLING me a fantasy. And this particular kind of fantasy involves well… money. More than any other kind of fantasies.

Your role is the one of a Goddess. You are the one every man desire. You are the one who looks down at men and just doesn’t care about them, because you don’t need them or their money. You already have all you want, but you are kind enough to allow slaves to come and worship, serve, and spoil you. That’s your role ok? Focus on this.

Now, for the love of God, why on Earth you would think that details are not important? This is ALL about details! Everything around you matters, everything I see when I look at you matters. Everything you do matters. Everything you say matters. It all counts to build this fantasy.

I’m not here saying everything should be perfect, I’m not that picky of course. But damn…there are a few things that REALLY drive me MAD. An example? Well, let me describe to you what just recently happened that made me write this post.

A few weeks ago I spotted a beautiful Goddess online. Her pictures are great, she seems to be very aware of what I like to call “The power of nylons”, and Her whole image seems perfect. Even what she writes on her profile is great. So, after a while, I decide to go and see Her.

The first night was nice, she was sexy and powerful, only downside was that she had a quite big run on her stockings. No big deal I think, it can happen. Most probably she didn’t notice it until I was in. She could have changed them but…ok, it was just the one time.

On the second night, the run on her stockings is even bigger. Once again, I decided to give her another chance. I really like her, she seems smart, the time we spend together is great…so why not.

The third night, when I look at her, all I can see is the HUGE run on her stockings. She is STILL using the same pair, she didn’t even bother to change them. She didn’t even think it could have mattered.

The fourth night… no, I’m kidding. There is never going to be a fourth night.

Am I exaggerating you say? Really? Shouldn’t I pretend for someone who plays the part of a Goddess to pay attention to, at least, these details?

Have a look at ANY of the Goddesses I’ve been serving in more than 10 years, have a look at them. Click here and visit them, have a session with them. You will NEVER notice something similar, for sure not for two sessions in a row. It can happen to anyone of course, even to them. But what they do is either change immediately or, at least, change after the one session where the issue shows up. It’s called attention to details. It’s called dedication to your work. It’s called respect with the one who’s paying you. It’s called professionalism. And girl, if you don’t have it well… You won’t simply have me as a slave in this roleplay we do. My money is better spent elsewhere.

Sorry for the rant guys…but I just needed to write all this.

Goddesses that get on my nerves: the definitive list

Goddesses that get on my nerves: the definitive list

Not all Goddesses are born equal: there is a large variety of them out there. Some may appeal to a certain type of slaves, some to another. Some may have a certain kind of beauty, some others a different one. It’s the beauty of life: to each his own.

But there are some kinds of Goddesses that I really can’t stand. They just get on my nerves, making me almost want to kick them in the ass. I thought of writing a list here and, just as we are clear, I’m talking about those that are part of a larger group, identified as… InstaGoddesses!

The InstaOrder

I don’t know if they had problems when they were kids, or if they are simply angry with the whole world. But how the fuck do you think to get ANY sort of attention from a slave if you contact him, out of nowhere, with messages like “Spoil me, stupid pig” or the infamous “Pay me, loser!“. I mean COME ON! I know you are in a rush to become rich in the easiest possible way, but could you at least say “hello” first? You know, just to be A BIT polite…just to show there is some life in that brain of yours! Brainless.

The InstaBeg

Chats with them usually are a bit longer, as they seem to have a more cautious approach. I don’t know, it’s like they are trying to guess if the one they are talking to has money to throw away…or if they are trying to be a bit nice to gain better results. Anyway, they will always end up saying things like “I’m broke, I need money” or “Please, I need some money“. Sometimes I even got “I’m hungry and don’t have money for food”. All of them, of course, having names on twitter like “Goddess”, “Queen”, “Royal” and so on. It’s as if Donald Trump would call himself Greta Thunderg while still saying the shit he says about climate change. It just doesn’t make sense! Call yourself differently… don’t know.. “hungry puppy”, “cute by broke”, “broke kitty”…perhaps you’ll get better results. No, you won’t, I’m kidding. Pathetic.

The InstaHi

These are just plain idiots. I’m sorry but that’s what they are. They will send you a “Hi” message…then if you answer after, say, a few hours…they will completely forget they contacted you first and answer again with a “Hi”. I swear a few times I managed to go back and forth like 3 or 4 times before she would finally realize and act all angry with a very dominant and intelligent “so who are you”. Hopeless.

The InstaInsult

Well, I believe in this case we are facing probably just the least educated form of a human being. Because I don’t know how else anyone would believe the correct way to approach anyone (not just a slave) is with things like “hey bitch”, “hey piglet”, “hey dickhead” and so on. If you do get results like this please tell me because I need to learn from you. Rude.

The InstaSpam

Not very different from the usual spam we all get into our inboxes daily. They have a message that says everything (like “pay me bitch use this and that method or this other one, see my pics here, get in touch with me like this” and so on) and they simply can’t be bothered to have real conversations. They just send that message to everyone, hoping some idiot would end up sending some money. Again…there surely is an idiot between me and them. Either I’m the one and they are some sort of findom-marketing geniuses or…. else. Boring.

The InstaTeen

They are honestly almost scary. It doesn’t matter how they contact me or what they say: when I check their profile and I see that they are like 16 years old… I just freeze. Not even sure of what to do. Usually, I just block them and run away from my PC screaming “I’m not a pedophileeee”…just in case, you know. Dangerous.

Damn…that made me feel better! Now that I’ve written them all down here…I feel relieved! And you? Which type of instadomme gets on your nerves?

Middle finger, “L” sign and…Instadommes

Middle finger, “L” sign and…Instadommes

If you read this blog since a while, you know how I HATE instadommes, especially for the waste of time they are for me and other real slaves that get flooded with identical messages on Twitter.

Why I hate instadommes

One of the things I hate the most about them is how they are acting ALL in the SAME way, like if there would be a rule “do this and slaves will magically pay you”.

A typical instadomme will:

  • Approach you without you even knowing who She is
  • Treat you like shit
  • Demand for money after not even 2 messages
  • Block you if you refuse

Sometimes it may happen that they don’t contact you, but you stumble upon them while browsing Twitter…it’s kinda easy to spot them.

About the middle finger and the “L” sign

Do you know what’s the easiest way to spot an Instadomme? Just view her content posts one by one: most probably in every video she shoots, she will end up with an “L” sign or a middle finger…or even both!!! And I mean EACH AND EVERYONE.

Now, don’t get me wrong. I know Financial Domination, sometimes, it’s also about humiliation and some slaves want to be treated that way…but you are acting ridiculously by doing this in every single video!

First of all: not every slave wants to be treated the same.

Second: a REAL Financial Domination Goddess is, first of all, a Lady with capital “L”. She’s well educated, elegant, smart, intelligent. How many of those words do you think go well with her doing a middle finger or the “L” sign? Exactly: NONE.

I mean… would you ever imagine Goddess Ishtar showing her middle finger or making the “L” sign in every single video she makes?

How many times have you seen her doing it?

And now answer this question: is she a successful domme, that submits slaves of every kind? Let me answer this one for you: Yes, She’s one of the best out there because She KNOWS what she’s doing and She’s not here just for the money.

A message for instadommes

Financial Domination can have many forms, and surely no slave is equal to another (to a certain extent). By doing all the same damn thing, all the dam time, you are just showing that you know NOTHING about this world and you are here just to grab some money.

My proposal to you? Go back where you came from, you are just an annoying waste of time for all of us, real slaves and real dommes.

Thank you.

The Art Of Chasing Slaves

The Art Of Chasing Slaves

As you all can imagine, I often talk with other slaves about domination in general and about Goddesses. One of the things that always come up is: “damn I wish my Goddess would contact me now, and remind me how powerful She is”. That’s why I thought of writing about this..because hey… I love it as well!

First things first: being chased by your Goddess is TOTALLY different than being chased by a Goddess you’ve never met before.

A Goddess chasing an unknown slave is, basically, just looking for new slaves in the most pathetic way. Hint: this is WRONG and NO real Goddess will EVER do this. No one of the Goddesses I’ve ever served did this, …and certainly, I will never serve someone acting in such a pathetic way.

On the other hand, once a certain kind of “relationship” has been established, being chased at the right moment, in the right way, is exactly what we, slaves, always crave for.

The right way to be chased

Basically, it’s all a game of things like… often but not too often, sending pics but not all the time, in a sexy way but only every now and then, …in a few words? Something like a constant “tease and denial”.
A Goddess constantly showing the slave Her power, without giving him the impression that he actually matters to her. Making him know that he’s not forgotten, but that he might easily end up being like that if he stops doing what he’s supposed to do.
Because let’s face it: if the Goddess makes the slave feel he’s important for Her, he might end up losing interest. He will see her less powerful and start looking for other Goddesses.

There is a very thin line between feeling chased and feeling needed. Crossing that line might ruin the slave loyalty altogether.
Chasing him should also be done at different times of the day. I know this might sound stupid…but think about it. If the Goddess only gets in touch with her slave at a certain time of the day, the slave will start feeling “safe” during the rest of the day…and that should not happen. We need to always feel trapped, during the whole day. Receiving the casual message at work, for example, is always a huge turn on and, at the same time, a very scary thing: perfect chasing technique, basically.
Chasing should start slowly, increasing as the “relationship” goes on, as the intimacy increases…and as the ways to interact increase: first it could just skype, then it could be e-mail, WhatsApp…

Not all slaves deserve this

This is important, and I really can’t say this enough: only slaves that know their place and their role should have the privilege to be chased. Time wasters should never ever be contacted first by the Goddess (for obvious reasons), and even slaves that pay should start to be chased bit by bit as long as they keep spoiling the Goddess.
I really think being chased is a HUGE privilege, and only a few slaves actually deserve it.
That’s why I immediately wrote that only when a certain kind of “relationship” is in place, chasing should start.

Wrapping up

First of all, my words are not rules written in stone: this all just my opinion, and please feel free to write “this is bulls**t” in comments if you feel like it.
But one thing is true: being chased is part of all the most solid and longer Goddess/slave relationships. Because a chased slave is a slave that doesn’t escape, and because a Goddess that knows how to chase, is ALWAYS a truly powerful and dangerous Goddess.

What do you think?

When she perfectly speaks english: a huge turn on

When she perfectly speaks english: a huge turn on

There are many things that can turn me on when i’m on cam with a Goddess, and one of those things is if she speaks a great english (even better if with a British accent, but that’s just me).

Turning mic on is tricky during a cam session: if she speaks a great english, i’m turned on even more. If she doesn’t… i’m totally turned off. That’s why i usually don’t ask to hear her voice…i know that, for me, if she doesn’t speak well i will be totally turned off.

Last night it was the opposite. A goddess i’ve been serving every now and then opened her microphone for the very first time… and i started listening to a fantastic englishfrom Her, even if i know that’s not her main language.

Believe me, i was totally turned on even just by the sound of her voice. It made it all look SO more real, made me feel SO closer to her…it was fantastic. It doesn’t happen often and, again, i usually don’t ask Goddesses for their microphone…but when it does like this time…it is one of the best sessions ever.