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When a slave spoils himself

When a slave spoils himself

We, as paypigs, have one and only one duty: to spoil our Goddess. It’s an honor we gladly take, and it’s the only reason why we are on this planet.
We spoil Her however She pleases, without asking questions, without being able to resist for even one second. It’s the beauty of Financial Domination, isn’t it?

A different perspective

Now, how about we look at this from a different perspective? Are we really sure that, when we spoil a Goddess, we are spoiling just her? I’ll tell you what: we are not.
The thing is, in my opinion, that when we spoil a Goddess, we are also spoiling ourselves big time. Spoiling Her is what brings us the greatest pleasure, it’s what gives us joy, satisfaction. We are here to do just that, we crave for it, we crave for Her to take whatever she wants from our bank account. And when we achieve that, the pleasure is also ours. So, in a way, we are actually spoiling ourselves. Don’t you think?

You deserve it

So the next time you lose your brain and start sending money to your Goddess, don’t feel guilty, don’t have any regrets: you deserved it, you worked hard for it…so it was just about time you got spoiled a bit! You are bringing the greatest pleasure to yourself, no reason to feel bad about it. Embrace this moment, enjoy spoiling yourself, don’t hold back!

Every PayPig’s biggest problem: the rush

Every PayPig’s biggest problem: the rush

One of the things that always upset me more about my Financial Domination “life” is the amount of money that I end up wasting: lately, I think I identified where the main problem is, but before getting into that, let me explain what I really mean about wasting money in Financial Domination.

Here’s what wasting money on Financial Domination really means

First of all: if I thought that Financial Domination is just a waste of money, I would have stopped years ago. That is NOT what I think. Financial Domination is part of who I am, of my sexuality, and spending money on this makes me feel sexually satisfied. BUT. Not all money spent on Financial Domination is spent wisely. 

I had countless bad sessions, I’ve sent countless tributes to goddesses I end up spoiling just 2 or 3 times in 12 years, countless sessions that left me just angry with myself for days after they happened. 

Wasting money for me means paying for a session that ends up being totally unsatisfying. It means finishing the session and, for many days following it, keep thinking “damn If only I had spent that money with one of the best Goddesses out there…“. That is precisely the whole point. My wasted money is the one spent for a session I really don’t enjoy, especially if, rationally, I could have easily spotted it was going to be a bad session…but I decided to do it anyway. And the main upsetting thing is the thought that that money could have gone to a way more worth Goddess, if only…

The biggest problem: the rush

Picture this. It’s late at night, you are home alone, and you feel the urge to have a session. You start browsing the internet looking for one of the best Goddesses you know, hoping one of them will be online to drain you as good as you feel you need. But no one of them is around. No one. 

The rush of having a session is still there (or, better said, you are still excited as f**k), so you start looking around camsites or Twitter, searching for some Goddesses you never served before that, judging from what you can quickly see, could still give you what you want. 

That’s it. This is what will most probably make you waste money. 

No good decision ever arrives from being in a rush. Even more, if you are in a rush AND excited. If you are running from one site to another, in a desperate attempt to find a great Goddess, most of the time you will end up settling down with a girl that “more or less” can have potential…and she will not. Believe me. You WILL waste your money.

The solution: use your brain (the one inside your head)

I know very well how we all feel in these moments, and which brain we are actually using (hint: not the one inside your head). We could easily solve the problem and don’t waste money, but we fail because we just can’t think straight. Again, we are not using the brain inside our heads. 

What would the solution be? Easy: when that kind of situation arrives, get off those sites and just wank! Wank on your own, cum, and forget about that feeling. Then, when you are NOT excited or in a rush, browse the internet looking for new “potential” Goddesses. Follow them, see what they post, what they do, how they do things. In time you will get a pretty good feeling of those that could potentially be a good “fit” for you, and if you are lucky enough one of them will be online the next time you are in this situation.

It’s true that, in the end, we are all just a bunch of wankers. But what we are looking for is more specific than others and, often, more difficult to find. We usually need a connection with the Goddess, we need Her to behave, talk and act exactly as we dream her to do. There are many great Goddesses out there, but finding them takes time and dedication. It’s never a good idea to jump into a session with someone you’ve never seen before. 

Stop the rush, calm down (yeah, wank to do that), relax and use that brain. You will have other chances with the Goddesses you crave for, no one ever died for not having a financial domination session. Just calm the f**k down in those moments, and don’t waste money.

The 10 commandments of a moneyslave

The 10 commandments of a moneyslave

I have been a moneyslave for nearly 12 years now, and I think my experience can be useful to those just starting up into this. Through these years I made mistakes, lots of them. But I also spent some fantastic time with beautiful Goddesses. And I believe my success also comes from following some rules that, I believe, every slave should follow. So there they are and, please, you are more than welcome to comment on these.

1 – Don’t lie to a Goddess

If you like to a Goddess, you will be the first one to suffer from that. Your session with Her won’t be as great as it could have been and, in time, she will find out about your lies and lose trust in you

2 – Don’t hide your true nature

This is very important especially during the first sessions you have with a Goddess. She can’t read your mind, She needs to know exactly what you are into so that she can give you the session you dream of

3 – Don’t settle for less

It’s always tempting to spend less money. You see two Goddesses that are somehow of interest to you (or look like it). One is clearly cheaper than the other one, but she is also less beautiful, has less style. You still like her, but not as much as the most expensive one. Well, don’t go with the cheaper one just because you want to save some money. You will end up spending with the cheaper AND spending with the most expensive one since you will crave for Her anyway. 

4 – Let go of your regrets

It’s difficult to avoid regrets. We all have them one time or another. But focusing on them, or letting them turn us away from our true nature is simply wrong. You are doing what makes you feel happy, you spent what you could spend at that moment. Don’t regret it.

5 – Never be a freeloader

If you really consider yourself a moneyslave, you will never, never, ever pretend ANYTHING for free from your Goddess. Always remember the value of Her time, the value of Her attention. And act as you acknowledge it.

6 – Think about your loved ones

It’s easy to lose control for us, but that never has to take your mind totally away from your family. If anything, take some precautions. Make it more difficult for yourself to spend more of the budget you thought. Your loved ones might be hurt by your actions: don’t let that happen.

7 – Respect the roles of the game

You are the slave, She is in charge. All the time. Never think for a moment that it can be anything different than this. She’s not your friend, She’s not any Woman: she’s your Goddess. And you always have to treat her as such.

8 – Don’t waste your time

The internet is full of girls (or even guys pretending to be girls) that think financial domination is easy money. They think all it gets is to ask for money from a slave, call him in some dirty ways, and he will just pay them. Don’t be THAT slave. If they think like this it’s because we’ve let them think like this, and we must work together to stop this nonsense. There are some of us who simply can’t distinguish a real Goddess from a fake one: this has to stop. Look around, document yourself, or simply compare those instadommes with the real Goddesses out there. Do they act the same? Do they do the same things, in the same way? Can’t you really see the differences? I know you can.

9 – Always thank Her

At the end of every session, or after she allows you to tribute her, you must always thank her. She just gave you what you wanted, she just spent some of her precious time with you, and she allowed you to spend some truly exciting time with her: the least you can do is be polite and thank Her for this.

10 – Write your own story

Each one of us is unique, there is no need for you to pretend to imitate someone else or to even compare yourself to others. You are who you are and, providing you will follow all these commandments, your experience as a moneyslave will be as valuable as the others. Other slaves can have different tastes, different amounts of time and money to dedicate to this, different things they like: but they are not you. Be yourself, enjoy financial domination as you think it’s best for you, and don’t compare yourself to others. If anything, look for ideas, suggestions, tips from other slaves: but never think their story can be exactly like yours. And also stop thinking because you have less money than them, you can’t be a good moneyslave. Financial Domination is about submission, total financial submission. The amount is not important, it’s how much it really means to you that is important.

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The Findom Cycle

The Findom Cycle

I have been a moneyslave for more than 10 years now, and sometimes I like to sit back and take a look at my actions from an “external” point of view: it’s interesting to find common paths that happen over and over the years, some common sequence of events that characterize me as a moneyslave. 

There is one in particular that I can see repeating itself over and over, almost daily in some periods, it’s the one I like to call: The Findom Cycle.

It’s for sure nothing that anyone into financial domination for a while doesn’t know about yet, but perhaps it will be interesting to describe its phases to those that still didn’t notice it.

1 – The Caution

Every moneyslave starts by trying to be cautious: we always believe we can hold back, we can control ourselves. So we kinda look at our Goddess (or more than one) from a distance, taking brief looks at their pictures, briefly reading their messages on Twitter, but always ending up with a reason to don’t spend. With a reason why we should just look away and get on with our life. How long this work for changes from slave to slave and, more important, from period to period. There are certain periods of my life where I can be cautious for a few days only before going to the next phase, other times I can stay longer. It all depends on many different things: from the situation in my real life, till how satisfactory (and expensive) was my last session and yes, also the kind of “signals” I get from Goddesses (for a clear example, read my article about how “Variety triggers me“.

As time goes by though, we all start to feel the urge of a session, of a tribute. That little voice in our head saying “come on, why not? Isn’t it what you really want to be happy?”. Perhaps we try to fight this little voice for a while…but soon enough the next phase happens. 

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2 – The Enjoyment

That’s it. Enough being cautious. Enough holding back. We embrace our nature, we need to do what we desire the most. Looking at our Goddess (or at Goddesses) has a different meaning now, we NEED a session, we NEED a small thing that “ticks” our desire, that makes us do that final step, that makes us embrace what we are and makes us crawl at a Goddess to beg for a session. It can be a twit, a picture, something she says, a particular moment of our life…we are basically only looking for a pretext. For a reason to send a tribute or have a session. And when that happens, we fully enjoy our fetish. We are money slaves and, at that moment, we are totally happy with our nature. The session happens, the drain happens, our happiness starts from now and lasts till the session… or even a bit more actually. 

3 – The Day After

And then there is the day after. What happens after a drain session? How do we feel when we cool down? How do we feel thinking back at what we did? Well, it depends. We don’t all react the same way, and we don’t react each time the same way. But I can bet that most of the time, we regret what we did. We regret the big-spending, the big weakness, the uncontrollable desire to send money. It’s what we love, it’s what made us happy during the session but… then there are real-life consequences. Could I have spent that money in a better way? Could have I saved them for later? Why did I have to spend them all in such a short time? 

Anyway, the last phase usually doesn’t last long. Unless we are in one of those life moments for a money slave when we say “ok fuck it, I need to stop all this forever”, the regret doesn’t last more than a day or two. After that, usually, the first phase comes back… in the never-ending Findom Cycle.

Money is meant to be spent, don’t hold back

Money is meant to be spent, don’t hold back

Money is meant to be spent. Don't hold back in Financial Domination

Everything about Financial Domination starts (and ends) with money. This is quite an obvious fact: we get excited when we pay the Domme, when she takes money from us or when she abuses our weaknesses to bring us in giving her more and more. The dilemma is always the same: how much should we spend?

Giving her everything

In a perfect financial domination relationship, the slave gives everything to his Goddess, leaving her all the control on what he can or cannot spend. If he can eat, if he can buy some clothes. Everything. But this is very rare, not many of us can commit to such a life. 

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Giving only what’s left

The opposite way is the safest one: you define a budget you are willing to spend and stick to it. With no exceptions. That way, you can perfectly live your financial domination relationship while still living a normal life. More often than not this starts as a good idea, and soon enough we fail to apply it. The urge to spend is too high, our self control too low. Moreover, this is also not exciting: the danger to spend too much is part of what we find exciting, let’s don’t deny it.

Always spend more than you planned

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It may look too risky perhaps, but this is probably the best way to live Financial Domination. Try to plan your expenses but…don’t hold back. If giving to your Goddess makes you feel good, by all means, go for it. There are people who spend thousands of euros on vacations, others spend it on sports cars, on clothes, shoes…so why can’t we spend a lot on what makes us feel better? Are there some risks in this? Sure there are, the same risks people take when they buy a new car which is far from a safe budget. But they still do. Because money is meant to be spent on things that make us feel good. Never hold back, go for it and you won’t have regrets.

And you? How do you live your financial domination?