Exploring the Nature of Findom Sessions: Pleasure or Punishment?

May 23, 2023 YourMoneySlave Comments 4 comments

During a recent conversation with a fellow paypig, I came to realize the diverse ways in which individuals approach Financial Domination sessions. Personally, I view findom as a treat, while others perceive it as a means of escape or relief from life’s pressures. Let’s delve into these two distinct approaches and their implications.

Approach 1: Financial Domination as a Reward

In my case, I engage in findom sessions as a form of self-reward when things are going well in my personal and professional life. It’s akin to congratulating myself for achievements or simply enjoying the fruits of success. Think of it as saying, “Well done, now treat yourself!” For me, embarking on a Financial Domination session is contingent upon being in a positive mental state. If I’m feeling down or unhappy, the idea of a session wouldn’t even cross my mind. It would only be a waste of time and money. However, when I’m in a good mood, a session can be the perfect cherry on top of an already delightful situation. In rare instances, I might resort to findom when I’m angry, seeking solace from the source of my anger. Nevertheless, I avoid engaging in findom when I’m sad, disappointed, or worried.

Approach 2: Financial Domination as an Escape

Alternatively, some individuals turn to findom as a temporary escape from life’s challenges, seeking relief from situations that undermine their self-confidence. This approach is akin to other addictive behaviors, where individuals, amidst their lowest points, seek refuge in Financial Domination, only to find themselves feeling even worse once the session concludes.

Can One Choose Their Approach?

Personally, I believe that the choice of approach is not a conscious decision. It is our instinct that guides us towards findom when we feel the need for it. Instinct alone determines which approach resonates with us. While I acknowledge that my approach is not the only one, I consider it to be less perilous. When we are in a positive state of mind, our brain tends to function better, reducing feelings of desperation and self-harm.

What Are Your Thoughts? Please comment below and let me know your perspective!

10 New Year’s Resolutions for the Devoted Paypig: A Lighthearted Look at Life as a Financial Submissive

December 26, 2022 YourMoneySlave Comments 0 Comment

As we enter a new year, many people are thinking about their resolutions and what they want to accomplish in the coming months. But have you ever considered the resolutions of a paypig?

I doubt anyone reading this would need an explanation of what a paypig is, but for the sake of this article…here it is.

A paypig, for those who may not be familiar, is a submissive individual who derives pleasure from financially supporting a dominant partner, often in exchange for attention, affection, or other forms of psychological gratification.

So, without further ado, here are the top 10 new year’s resolutions for a paypig:

“I resolve to send even more money to my Goddess because nothing brings me greater joy than making her life a little easier.”
“I resolve to learn more about the financial interests of my Goddess so that I can better cater to her needs and desires.”
“I resolve to be more attentive to the requests and commands of my Goddess because her pleasure is my top priority.”
“I resolve to save up for that special gift that my Goddess has been hinting at because making her happy is worth any financial sacrifice.”
“I resolve to be more proactive in finding new ways to serve and support my Goddess because nothing brings me greater satisfaction.”
“I resolve to work harder and earn more money so that I can offer even greater financial support to my Goddess.”
“I resolve to be more creative in my financial tribute because my Goddess deserves the best and most unique gifts.”
“I resolve to be more patient and understanding when my Goddess tests my limits because I know it’s all part of the dynamic we share.”
“I resolve to communicate more openly and honestly with my Goddess about my financial limits and boundaries because honesty and transparency are key to any healthy relationship.”
“I resolve to embrace my role as a paypig and embrace the joy and fulfillment it brings me because there’s no better way to start the new year than by embracing who you truly are.”

So there you have it, the top 10 new year’s resolutions of a paypig. Whether you’re a paypig yourself (and if you are, you should click here and start acting on this list) or a Goddess reading this post, I hope you enjoyed this little bit of lighthearted fun.

When a slave spoils himself

December 14, 2021 YourMoneySlave Comments 3 comments

We, as paypigs, have one and only one duty: to spoil our Goddess. It’s an honor we gladly take, and it’s the only reason why we are on this planet.
We spoil Her however She pleases, without asking questions, without being able to resist for even one second. It’s the beauty of Financial Domination, isn’t it?

A different perspective

Now, how about we look at this from a different perspective? Are we really sure that, when we spoil a Goddess, we are spoiling just her? I’ll tell you what: we are not.
The thing is, in my opinion, that when we spoil a Goddess, we are also spoiling ourselves big time. Spoiling Her is what brings us the greatest pleasure, it’s what gives us joy, satisfaction. We are here to do just that, we crave for it, we crave for Her to take whatever she wants from our bank account. And when we achieve that, the pleasure is also ours. So, in a way, we are actually spoiling ourselves. Don’t you think?

You deserve it

So the next time you lose your brain and start sending money to your Goddess, don’t feel guilty, don’t have any regrets: you deserved it, you worked hard for it…so it was just about time you got spoiled a bit! You are bringing the greatest pleasure to yourself, no reason to feel bad about it. Embrace this moment, enjoy spoiling yourself, don’t hold back!

Every PayPig’s biggest problem: the rush

August 24, 2021 YourMoneySlave Comments 4 comments

One of the things that always upset me more about my Financial Domination “life” is the amount of money that I end up wasting: lately, I think I identified where the main problem is, but before getting into that, let me explain what I really mean about wasting money in Financial Domination.

Here’s what wasting money on Financial Domination really means

First of all: if I thought that Financial Domination is just a waste of money, I would have stopped years ago. That is NOT what I think. Financial Domination is part of who I am, of my sexuality, and spending money on this makes me feel sexually satisfied. BUT. Not all money spent on Financial Domination is spent wisely.

I had countless bad sessions, I’ve sent countless tributes to goddesses I end up spoiling just 2 or 3 times in 12 years, countless sessions that left me just angry with myself for days after they happened.

Wasting money for me means paying for a session that ends up being totally unsatisfying. It means finishing the session and, for many days following it, keep thinking “damn If only I had spent that money with one of the best Goddesses out there…“. That is precisely the whole point. My wasted money is the one spent for a session I really don’t enjoy, especially if, rationally, I could have easily spotted it was going to be a bad session…but I decided to do it anyway. And the main upsetting thing is the thought that that money could have gone to a way more worth Goddess, if only…

The biggest problem: the rush

Picture this. It’s late at night, you are home alone, and you feel the urge to have a session. You start browsing the internet looking for one of the best Goddesses you know, hoping one of them will be online to drain you as good as you feel you need. But no one of them is around. No one.

The rush of having a session is still there (or, better said, you are still excited as f**k), so you start looking around camsites or Twitter, searching for some Goddesses you never served before that, judging from what you can quickly see, could still give you what you want.

That’s it. This is what will most probably make you waste money.

No good decision ever arrives from being in a rush. Even more, if you are in a rush AND excited. If you are running from one site to another, in a desperate attempt to find a great Goddess, most of the time you will end up settling down with a girl that “more or less” can have potential…and she will not. Believe me. You WILL waste your money.

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The solution: use your brain (the one inside your head)

I know very well how we all feel in these moments, and which brain we are actually using (hint: not the one inside your head). We could easily solve the problem and don’t waste money, but we fail because we just can’t think straight. Again, we are not using the brain inside our heads.

What would the solution be? Easy: when that kind of situation arrives, get off those sites and just wank! Wank on your own, cum, and forget about that feeling. Then, when you are NOT excited or in a rush, browse the internet looking for new “potential” Goddesses. Follow them, see what they post, what they do, how they do things. In time you will get a pretty good feeling of those that could potentially be a good “fit” for you, and if you are lucky enough one of them will be online the next time you are in this situation.

It’s true that, in the end, we are all just a bunch of wankers. But what we are looking for is more specific than others and, often, more difficult to find. We usually need a connection with the Goddess, we need Her to behave, talk and act exactly as we dream her to do. There are many great Goddesses out there, but finding them takes time and dedication. It’s never a good idea to jump into a session with someone you’ve never seen before.

Stop the rush, calm down (yeah, wank to do that), relax and use that brain. You will have other chances with the Goddesses you crave for, no one ever died for not having a financial domination session. Just calm the f**k down in those moments, and don’t waste money.

The 10 commandments of a moneyslave

February 2, 2021 YourMoneySlave Comments 1 comment

I have been a moneyslave for nearly 12 years now, and I think my experience can be useful to those just starting up into this. Through these years I made mistakes, lots of them. But I also spent some fantastic time with beautiful Goddesses. And I believe my success also comes from following some rules that, I believe, every slave should follow. So there they are and, please, you are more than welcome to comment on these.

1 – Don’t lie to a Goddess

If you like to a Goddess, you will be the first one to suffer from that. Your session with Her won’t be as great as it could have been and, in time, she will find out about your lies and lose trust in you

2 – Don’t hide your true nature

This is very important especially during the first sessions you have with a Goddess. She can’t read your mind, She needs to know exactly what you are into so that she can give you the session you dream of

3 – Don’t settle for less

It’s always tempting to spend less money. You see two Goddesses that are somehow of interest to you (or look like it). One is clearly cheaper than the other one, but she is also less beautiful, has less style. You still like her, but not as much as the most expensive one. Well, don’t go with the cheaper one just because you want to save some money. You will end up spending with the cheaper AND spending with the most expensive one since you will crave for Her anyway.

4 – Let go of your regrets

It’s difficult to avoid regrets. We all have them one time or another. But focusing on them, or letting them turn us away from our true nature is simply wrong. You are doing what makes you feel happy, you spent what you could spend at that moment. Don’t regret it.

5 – Never be a freeloader

If you really consider yourself a moneyslave, you will never, never, ever pretend ANYTHING for free from your Goddess. Always remember the value of Her time, the value of Her attention. And act as you acknowledge it.

6 – Think about your loved ones

It’s easy to lose control for us, but that never has to take your mind totally away from your family. If anything, take some precautions. Make it more difficult for yourself to spend more of the budget you thought. Your loved ones might be hurt by your actions: don’t let that happen.

7 – Respect the roles of the game

You are the slave, She is in charge. All the time. Never think for a moment that it can be anything different than this. She’s not your friend, She’s not any Woman: she’s your Goddess. And you always have to treat her as such.

8 – Don’t waste your time

The internet is full of girls (or even guys pretending to be girls) that think financial domination is easy money. They think all it gets is to ask for money from a slave, call him in some dirty ways, and he will just pay them. Don’t be THAT slave. If they think like this it’s because we’ve let them think like this, and we must work together to stop this nonsense. There are some of us who simply can’t distinguish a real Goddess from a fake one: this has to stop. Look around, document yourself, or simply compare those instadommes with the real Goddesses out there. Do they act the same? Do they do the same things, in the same way? Can’t you really see the differences? I know you can.

9 – Always thank Her

At the end of every session, or after she allows you to tribute her, you must always thank her. She just gave you what you wanted, she just spent some of her precious time with you, and she allowed you to spend some truly exciting time with her: the least you can do is be polite and thank Her for this.

10 – Write your own story

Each one of us is unique, there is no need for you to pretend to imitate someone else or to even compare yourself to others. You are who you are and, providing you will follow all these commandments, your experience as a moneyslave will be as valuable as the others. Other slaves can have different tastes, different amounts of time and money to dedicate to this, different things they like: but they are not you. Be yourself, enjoy financial domination as you think it’s best for you, and don’t compare yourself to others. If anything, look for ideas, suggestions, tips from other slaves: but never think their story can be exactly like yours. And also stop thinking because you have less money than them, you can’t be a good moneyslave. Financial Domination is about submission, total financial submission. The amount is not important, it’s how much it really means to you that is important.

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The Findom Cycle

June 13, 2020 YourMoneySlave Comments 0 Comment

I have been a moneyslave for more than 10 years now, and sometimes I like to sit back and take a look at my actions from an “external” point of view: it’s interesting to find common paths that happen over and over the years, some common sequence of events that characterize me as a moneyslave.

There is one in particular that I can see repeating itself over and over, almost daily in some periods, it’s the one I like to call: The Findom Cycle.

It’s for sure nothing that anyone into financial domination for a while doesn’t know about yet, but perhaps it will be interesting to describe its phases to those that still didn’t notice it.

1 – The Caution

Every moneyslave starts by trying to be cautious: we always believe we can hold back, we can control ourselves. So we kinda look at our Goddess (or more than one) from a distance, taking brief looks at their pictures, briefly reading their messages on Twitter, but always ending up with a reason to don’t spend. With a reason why we should just look away and get on with our life. How long this work for changes from slave to slave and, more important, from period to period. There are certain periods of my life where I can be cautious for a few days only before going to the next phase, other times I can stay longer. It all depends on many different things: from the situation in my real life, till how satisfactory (and expensive) was my last session and yes, also the kind of “signals” I get from Goddesses (for a clear example, read my article about how “Variety triggers me“.

As time goes by though, we all start to feel the urge of a session, of a tribute. That little voice in our head saying “come on, why not? Isn’t it what you really want to be happy?”. Perhaps we try to fight this little voice for a while…but soon enough the next phase happens.

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2 – The Enjoyment

That’s it. Enough being cautious. Enough holding back. We embrace our nature, we need to do what we desire the most. Looking at our Goddess (or at Goddesses) has a different meaning now, we NEED a session, we NEED a small thing that “ticks” our desire, that makes us do that final step, that makes us embrace what we are and makes us crawl at a Goddess to beg for a session. It can be a twit, a picture, something she says, a particular moment of our life…we are basically only looking for a pretext. For a reason to send a tribute or have a session. And when that happens, we fully enjoy our fetish. We are money slaves and, at that moment, we are totally happy with our nature. The session happens, the drain happens, our happiness starts from now and lasts till the session… or even a bit more actually.

3 – The Day After

And then there is the day after. What happens after a drain session? How do we feel when we cool down? How do we feel thinking back at what we did? Well, it depends. We don’t all react the same way, and we don’t react each time the same way. But I can bet that most of the time, we regret what we did. We regret the big-spending, the big weakness, the uncontrollable desire to send money. It’s what we love, it’s what made us happy during the session but… then there are real-life consequences. Could I have spent that money in a better way? Could have I saved them for later? Why did I have to spend them all in such a short time?

Anyway, the last phase usually doesn’t last long. Unless we are in one of those life moments for a money slave when we say “ok fuck it, I need to stop all this forever”, the regret doesn’t last more than a day or two. After that, usually, the first phase comes back… in the never-ending Findom Cycle.

Money is meant to be spent, don’t hold back

May 14, 2020 YourMoneySlave Comments 2 comments

Everything about Financial Domination starts (and ends) with money. This is quite an obvious fact: we get excited when we pay the Domme, when she takes money from us or when she abuses our weaknesses to bring us in giving her more and more. The dilemma is always the same: how much should we spend?

Giving her everything

In a perfect financial domination relationship, the slave gives everything to his Goddess, leaving her all the control on what he can or cannot spend. If he can eat, if he can buy some clothes. Everything. But this is very rare, not many of us can commit to such a life.

Giving only what’s left

The opposite way is the safest one: you define a budget you are willing to spend and stick to it. With no exceptions. That way, you can perfectly live your financial domination relationship while still living a normal life. More often than not this starts as a good idea, and soon enough we fail to apply it. The urge to spend is too high, our self control too low. Moreover, this is also not exciting: the danger to spend too much is part of what we find exciting, let’s don’t deny it.

Always spend more than you planned

It may look too risky perhaps, but this is probably the best way to live Financial Domination. Try to plan your expenses but…don’t hold back. If giving to your Goddess makes you feel good, by all means, go for it. There are people who spend thousands of euros on vacations, others spend it on sports cars, on clothes, shoes…so why can’t we spend a lot on what makes us feel better? Are there some risks in this? Sure there are, the same risks people take when they buy a new car which is far from a safe budget. But they still do. Because money is meant to be spent on things that make us feel good. Never hold back, go for it and you won’t have regrets.

And you? How do you live your financial domination?

Choosing a Goddess to serve

November 28, 2019 YourMoneySlave Comments 0 Comment

I know many will say “slaves have no power, they are just there to serve Goddesses”, and I know many Goddesses (especially the “wannabe” ones) will believe that. To them, a slave exists only to serve ANY Goddess, no matter what she looks like, say or do.

Well let me open your eyes: this is NOT true. We, slaves, do have one power, and it’s one of the most important ones for you to become our Goddess.

We choose which Goddesses to serve

There is simply no way a Goddess can be the right one for every slave: each one of us has different tastes, different fantasies, different things that make him “going”. And because I get dozen of messages from basically ANY kind of Goddess, I thought of writing a post about the process I usually go through before I become a slave of one particular Goddess.

How she looks like

This is the very first factor that drives my attention toward a Goddess. And it’s not just about her body, it’s also about her dressing style. I have a fetish for feet in nylons (especially pantyhose) so if, say, I look into her Twitter and see she never wears stockings and pantyhose or doesn’t like them, I just move away. Nylons are important to me and more important is that She wears them because She wants and likes to, not just because I like them. One “plus” for me is also if she seems to have many different outfits that she uses. Too often some girls are always showing the same clothes, making it look like they are sort of wearing a “uniform to go to work”. I prefer a woman who loves to put different stuff on, making me think she enjoys getting ready before starting her domination session.

Her attitude

After I’m intrigued by the way She looks, I start following her on social media or camsites, if she works on one with free cam shows. This way, I can get a better understanding of the kind of Goddess She is. Is she aggressive? Is She mean? Does she seem to be enjoying what she does? Does she seem bored? Is she funny? There isn’t a “list” of things I like or don’t like here. Each Goddess is different, and I might like one for a reason, another one for the very opposite of that. So let’s say that I more or less try to understand if her attitude “makes me going” or it’s so bad that simply makes me forget I like the way she looks.

My first approach

If I’m still interested in Her, of course, the next step is approaching Her. Let me be clear here: I try to NEVER waste her time, and ALWAYS have total respect for Her and Her valuable time. So my approach is never like talking hours with Her for free or making her waste tons of time on social media. A few comments here and there on pictures I like, some engagement on Her posts, some small talk in free chat. Nothing else. Just to let Her know I exist so that when I will go for a session I won’t be someone she never heard about. Usually, nothing goes wrong here, because I don’t expect much from Her. I know they are all super busy, and I know the proper way of making myself noticed is with a tribute. But some of them are better than others, and they end up engaging a bit with me. Even a short reply to my messages can be nice, makes me feel like she’s aware of what’s happening around her, she’s not just sitting there waiting for sessions. That’s a nice thing.

The first session

Now it’s time to have my first session with Her: I’m interested in Her, I like how she looks, how she dresses, how she engages and behaves…sure I want to be at her feet!

And yet… sometimes it happens that only during the first session I understand She’s not one for me. Of course, I don’t expect her to magically understand all of me in just one session or the very first session to be perfect.. but there are a few things here and there that can be a total turn off for me. I don’t even know how to describe them, because every session is different…but if they happen, that will be my first and last session with her. It happened more than a few times, unfortunately.

Wrapping up

So this is the “process” I follow each time I spot a Goddess I didn’t know before. It may seem odd or too complicated but…believe me, every (serious) slave does the same. We all want to have the best experience ever, and there are thousands of potential Goddesses out there. The least we can do is choose wisely….don’t you think?