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Can Findom and a Committed Relationship Coexist?

Can Findom and a Committed Relationship Coexist?

can Findom and a committed relationship coexist?

Over the past 16 years, my journey in financial domination has taught me countless lessons—not just about findom itself, but about relationships, balance, and what it means to live authentically. One question I’ve often seen asked, and one I’ve grappled with myself, is this: Can you enjoy findom while being in a committed relationship?

Now, to be clear, I’m not talking about relationships where findom is openly discussed, accepted, or even part of the dynamic. Those are rare in my experience and not something I would personally pursue. I’m talking about someone like me—a sub deeply drawn to findom who also happens to be in a long-term romantic relationship or marriage, where findom is entirely off the radar for their partner.

Is it wrong? Is it cheating? Should you choose between findom and your partner? And if you want to keep both, how can you do so without causing harm to your loved ones? These are heavy questions, and while I don’t claim to have all the answers, I hope sharing my experiences and thoughts can help others navigate this delicate balance.

The Inspiration for This Post

Before diving in, I want to acknowledge something: part of what inspired me to write this post was the discussions I’ve seen in the paypigsupportgroup subreddit. This space has been a source of reflection and new perspectives for me, and I thought it was time to share my story in the hopes it might help others.

Is Findom Cheating?

Let’s address the first—and often most debated—question: is findom cheating?

If we stick to the textbook definition of “cheating” as acting dishonestly or unfairly for personal gain, then yes, findom qualifies. Engaging in findom often provides a kind of sexual or psychological gratification, and doing so without your partner’s knowledge could be considered a betrayal of trust.

But—and this is a big but—not all forms of “cheating” are equal. There’s emotional cheating, physical infidelity, and then there are fetishes like findom that occupy a different space altogether. For me, it’s not just about the dictionary definition; it’s about the impact my actions have on my partner and family.

Addiction or Part of My Sexuality?

This is a question I’ve wrestled with for years. I’ve often found myself torn between the guilt of engaging in findom and the undeniable need I feel to include it in my life.

I’ve tried quitting findom multiple times, sometimes for months at a stretch. But every time I stopped, I noticed the same pattern: I wasn’t happy. I became irritable, disconnected, and less present for my loved ones. It wasn’t just about missing findom—it felt like I was denying a part of myself.

Some might say this is evidence of addiction, and I won’t dismiss that entirely. But I’ve come to see findom as an integral part of my sexuality. It’s not something I can simply “turn off.” Instead, I’ve learned that I need to balance it with the other aspects of my life—work, family, and love—to feel whole.

Love Comes First—Always

No matter how much I enjoy findom, my partner and family will always be my top priority. Their happiness and well-being come first, and I ensure they never feel neglected or second to anything in my life.

This means being present, attentive, and fully committed to their needs. It also means maintaining trust—a trust that has been built over years of consistent love and care. If my family trusts me completely, they’re less likely to question my actions, which makes balancing findom and family life a bit easier.

Money and Trust: The Foundation of Balance

Findom isn’t cheap, and keeping it separate from your family finances requires discipline and effort. To make this work, I’ve taken on three jobs, working 11+ hours a day to ensure I can indulge in findom without taking anything away from my family.

Weekends are strictly for family time, and whatever money and time remain after fulfilling all other obligations are what I dedicate to findom. This approach ensures that findom never interferes with my responsibilities.

But money isn’t the only requirement. Trust is just as crucial. Your loved ones need to feel secure in your relationship and know they can rely on you completely. Building and maintaining this trust takes effort, but it’s essential for keeping findom in your life without causing harm.

The Lisbon Experience: A Hard Lesson

Even with years of experience, mistakes can and do happen. One of the most challenging moments in my journey was the infamous Lisbon experience, where I ended up spending €20,000 during a real-life session with Goddess Ishtar.

The session itself was unforgettable, but the aftermath was a harsh wake-up call. Scrambling to cover my tracks and ensure my partner wouldn’t discover what had happened was both stressful and complicated. The trust I’ve built with my loved ones over the years made it slightly easier to navigate the situation, but it was still a chaotic mess to manage.

I share this because it underscores the risks inherent in findom. It’s not without consequences, and experiences like this serve as powerful reminders of the need for careful planning, self-awareness, and unwavering financial discipline to avoid jeopardizing the trust you’ve worked so hard to build.

So, Can It Work?

For me, the answer is yes—but only with the right balance and priorities. Over the last 16 years, I’ve found a way to incorporate findom into my life while ensuring my loved ones never suffer for it.

That said, it hasn’t always been smooth sailing. There have been ups and downs, moments of clarity, and times when I felt like I was failing. But through it all, I’ve learned how to navigate this complex dynamic in a way that works for me.

Would my partner be hurt if they found out? Of course. But the goal here isn’t to justify deception—it’s to share how I’ve managed to reconcile this part of myself while prioritizing the people I love.

What About You?

This is my story, but I’m curious to hear yours. Have you found a way to balance findom and a committed relationship? Do you think it’s possible, or is it a line that shouldn’t be crossed? Let’s discuss.

15 Years of Blogging About Findom

15 Years of Blogging About Findom

On January 5th, 2025, this blog reached an incredible milestone: 15 years of existence. What began as an experiment—a desperate attempt to confront my own struggles—has transformed into something far more meaningful than I could have ever imagined.

When I published that first post in January 2010, my intent was simple yet heavy with emotion: to shame myself out of my financial domination fetish. At the time, I believed that exposing my thoughts and behaviors online would spark enough embarrassment to make me stop. But life often takes unexpected turns.

Instead of shame, I found understanding. Through writing, reflecting, and connecting with others, I slowly began to unravel the complexities of my fetish. Over the years, this blog became a place of self-discovery, where I learned how to balance my desires with my responsibilities and find harmony between the two.

This journey hasn’t been easy, but I’ve grown immensely. It’s taught me discipline, accountability, and the value of hard work. Today, I juggle three jobs to ensure that my indulgences never interfere with my family’s well-being—a lesson I learned only by confronting my feelings head-on.

This blog wouldn’t be what it is today without the incredible people who’ve supported me along the way. To the Goddesses who shaped my journey, thank you for teaching me about power, beauty, and grace. To the slaves who commented and shared their own experiences, your insights have been a source of strength and solidarity. And to everyone who has helped me make peace with my fetish, thank you for showing me that understanding and balance are possible.

This blog is as much yours as it is mine—a testament to the connections we’ve built and the stories we’ve shared over the past 15 years.

A Look Back: The Numbers and Highlights of 15 Years

As I reflect on 15 incredible years of Your Money Slave, it’s fascinating to see how this blog has evolved. Here’s a journey through some of the milestones, numbers, and quirky stats that tell the story of this space we’ve built together:


📅 First Post: January 5, 2010
The blog began with a single post, written in a moment of personal turmoil. Fifteen years and countless words later, it has become something far greater.

🔢 Milestones:

🏷️ Tags: 347 unique tags have been used to categorize posts, with “financial domination” leading the pack—appearing 127 times.

🖋️ Word Count:
In total, the blog features 115,872 words—more than the length of an average novel! The longest post, Beyond Control: My Surrender to Goddess Ishtar in Portugal, boasts a staggering 2,562 words, capturing the intensity of that unforgettable experience.

💬 Comments:
Over the years, the blog has received 384 comments, with the most-discussed post being The 20,000 Euros Findom Lie: How Close Did I Come to Getting Caught?, which garnered 18 comments.

📸 Images:
Visuals have played a big role, with 523 images enhancing the storytelling and helping to capture the emotions behind each post.


A Heartfelt Thank You

Behind these numbers lies more than just a collection of milestones—they represent the countless memories, lessons, and moments of vulnerability that I’ve had the privilege of sharing with all of you.

To the Goddesses who shaped my journey, the readers who left thoughtful comments, and the silent supporters who followed along quietly—thank you. You’ve all played a role in making this blog a space where I could reflect, grow, and find peace with my findom fetish.

This blog started as an attempt to confront something I didn’t fully understand about myself. Thanks to this incredible community, it has become a space of connection and acceptance, a place where I’ve been able to learn how to balance my desires with the rest of my life.

Here’s to all of you who’ve been part of this journey—whether you’ve been here since the beginning or just discovered the blog. I wouldn’t have made it this far without you.

Thank you for 15 amazing years. ❤️

My 2024 in Findom: A Year of Submission and Spending

My 2024 in Findom: A Year of Submission and Spending

My 2024 in Findom: A Yaer of Submission and Spending

As the year comes to a close, it’s time to reflect on my journey in financial domination throughout 2024. It’s been a year of intense highs, moments of surrender, and significant milestones that I’m excited to share. Here’s a breakdown of what made this year unforgettable.

Findom paypig 2024 infographic

88 Online Sessions

This year, I participated in 88 online sessions, each one a unique experience. While many were exhilarating—ranging from casual chats to thrilling teases or intense drains—not all of them lived up to expectations. However, even the less satisfying sessions served a purpose, teaching me which Goddesses to avoid in the future. The good ones, on the other hand, reaffirmed my place as a devoted paypig, making the journey worthwhile.

35 Goddesses Served

I had the opportunity to serve 35 women throughout the year, each with her own style, beauty, and power. However, not all of them turned out to truly embody what it means to be a “Goddess” or to deserve to be spoiled. While some left an indelible mark on my journey, others helped me refine my understanding of who truly deserves my devotion and generosity.

19 Sessions with the Same Goddess

Among the many Goddesses, one stood out. I served her for 19 sessions—more than any other. She captivated me with her unique dominance and kept me coming back for more. This connection is one of the highlights of my year. I won’t say her name, as a matter of respect for the others, but you can surely have an idea about whom she might be.

$17,467.92 Spent Online

Financial domination isn’t just about submission—it’s about the act of giving. This year, I spent $17,467.92 online, contributing to the Goddesses I admire and adore. Every tribute felt like an act of devotion, fueling my submission and their power.

$9,836.15 Spent with the Same Goddess

Of the total amount spent online, $9,836.15 went to the Goddess I served most frequently. Her ability to command, tease, and dominate is unmatched, making her worth every cent and more.

36 Hours 43 Minutes Spent Online

In total, I spent over 36 hours in sessions online. That’s more than a day and a half dedicated to worship, submission, and servitude—time that was both exhilarating and fulfilling.

18 Hours with the Same Goddess

Nearly half of that time—17 hours and 57 minutes, to be exact—was spent with the Goddess I served most. These moments were intense and deeply memorable, a testament to her ability to keep me enthralled.

€19,722.17 Spent in Real Life

This year’s most significant and unforgettable moment was my real-life session with Goddess Ishtar in February. Traveling to Portugal to kneel before her was a dream come true—and one that came with the ultimate price of €19,722.17.

Every euro was hers to command, and she took it all with the grace and power only she possesses. That single session not only defined my year but also solidified her place as the most extraordinary Goddess I’ve ever had the privilege to serve.

Want to know more about that life-changing session? Read the full story here

Looking Ahead to 2025

As I reflect on these numbers, I can’t help but feel a deep sense of gratitude for the Goddesses who shaped my year. Each session, each tribute, and each moment of submission has brought me closer to understanding what it means to be a devoted paypig.

Here’s to an even more thrilling 2025—more sessions, more submission, and more unforgettable experiences.

What about you?
How was your year in findom? Share your thoughts and highlights below—I’d love to hear about your journey!

A Paypig’s Holiday Wish List: A Letter to Santa 🎄

A Paypig’s Holiday Wish List: A Letter to Santa 🎄

Financial Domination paypig Santa wishlist

As the holiday season is upon us, I found myself reflecting on the year and thought: why not write my own little letter to Santa? After all, I believe I’ve been a good paypig this year. Loyal (mostly), generous, and always striving to improve. Surely, I deserve a few treats, right?

So here’s my concise and heartfelt wish list for Santa. If you’re reading this, dear Santa, I promise it’s simple. Just a few things to make 2025 even better for me and the Goddesses I serve.


1. Let Her Be Always Online When I Feel the “Urge”

Too many times this year, I’ve been left unfulfilled simply because she wasn’t online when my need for submission struck. That “urge” isn’t something I can control—it’s raw, primal, and demanding.

And yet, there I was, unable to serve her, left with no choice but to divert my attention elsewhere. The guilt of disloyalty lingers, even though I know it’s human nature. So, dear Santa, could you make it so she’s magically online whenever I need her? Let my loyalty be easier to maintain.

2. Never Let Me See a Run in a Goddess’s Nylons

There are few things more painful than seeing a Goddess in worn-out or damaged nylons. Whether it’s a run in her stockings or pantyhose that’s clearly been overused, it’s an instant mood killer.

I know some so-called “Goddesses” don’t understand the importance of quality nylons—but I do. So please, Santa, spare me the sight. Ensure that every Goddess graces her sessions with impeccable nylons, as pristine and perfect as the power they wield.

3. Bring Better Cameras to Those Who Need Them

This year, I’ve seen far too many stunning Goddesses held back by subpar camera quality. A powerful Goddess deserves to be seen in her full glory, with every detail of her elegance and dominance captured in high definition.

Santa, please gift those in need with the tools to elevate their streams. Let their beauty shine through in Full HD perfection, so we slaves can truly worship them as they deserve.

4. Let Me Earn More, So I Can Spend More

I know this might be asking a lot, but could you bless my business with even greater success in the coming year? The more I earn, the more I can give—and nothing brings me greater joy than spoiling Her.

I dream of being the top slave, the one who sends the most and most often. Help me fulfill this dream, Santa, so I can serve Her as often and generously as possible.

5. No More Haters

Findom haters are everywhere, and their tiresome rhetoric is as predictable as it is infuriating: “It’s a disease,” “You’re ruining yourself,” “You’re giving money away to women who don’t care about you.”

Santa, could you redirect their negativity elsewhere? Let them target those who truly deserve criticism—the ones who treat women as objects or degrade them for their own ego. We, the devoted slaves, serve, worship, and adore the Goddesses we kneel before. Let them see the difference and leave us in peace.

And Finally…

That’s it, really, my dear Santa. Just a few simple wishes to make my life—and my journey in financial domination—even better in 2025.

To everyone reading this, I wish you a wonderful holiday season. May your dreams come true, your loved ones remain healthy and happy, and may findom bring you the joy and fulfillment you seek.

Happy Holidays,
A Devoted Paypig 🎄💎


What do you think? Did Santa get it right this year? Share your own holiday wishes below—let’s spread the festive spirit! 🎁

The Enchanting Beauty of MsSupreme: A Tribute to Perfection

The Enchanting Beauty of MsSupreme: A Tribute to Perfection

MsSupreme Findom for PayPigs

In over 15 years immersed in the world of financial domination, I’ve had the privilege of encountering hundreds of stunning women online. Each one brought her unique style, beauty, and attitude to the table. Yet, only a select few truly left an indelible mark on me as a findomme—those who stand out above the rest for their ability to dominate and captivate.

Among them, one name shines brighter than all others for her extraordinary beauty: MsSupreme.

I could write endlessly about her manipulative brilliance, her unmatched dominance, or how she effortlessly commands submission with a single glance. But today, I want to focus solely on her beauty. Every inch of her is a masterpiece, so much so that I feel compelled to write about the features that make her truly unique and unforgettable.

Financial domination Goddess MsSupreme

Her Eyes

MsSupreme’s blue eyes are, without a doubt, the most mesmerizing I’ve ever seen. They are big, perfectly shaped, and always carry an intense, piercing gaze. It feels as though her eyes can reach straight into your soul, exposing every vulnerable corner.

A few seconds of staring into her gaze, and you’ll find yourself slipping into a trance, powerless to resist her pull. Those eyes don’t just see you—they own you.

Her Lips

There should be a word created specifically to describe the perfection of MsSupreme’s lips. They are an invitation—no, a command—to sin, to serve, to obey.

Whether she smiles with playful mischief or adopts a stern, commanding expression, her lips are a constant source of fascination. They’re the kind of perfection that keeps your eyes locked on her, unable to look away.

Her Breasts

I’ll admit, I’ve never been particularly drawn to breasts. My fetishes have always been feet and nylons. But MsSupreme changes everything.

Her breasts are nothing short of a weapon of mass seduction. Perfectly proportioned, they captivate and tease in ways that defy explanation. When she decides to wield them, resistance is futile. They command attention and surrender, leaving you utterly helpless.

MsSupreme Findom Goddess Feet Dangling

Her Feet

In September 2010, I wrote a post titled My Newest Nightmare: MsSupreme, where I detailed the feature that initially ensnared me in her trap (and where I remain to this day): her feet.

MsSupreme’s feet are the epitome of perfection, boasting the most exquisite arches I’ve ever seen. They aren’t overly pronounced like a ballerina’s, nor are they flat. They are just right, curving gracefully, often peeking out of her shoes in a way that transforms even the subtlest dangling into pure hypnotic magic.

As someone with a deep fetish for feet in nylons, I’ve served many Goddesses over the years, but none compare to MsSupreme. Her feet are unmatched, radiating a power that captures not just foot fetishists but anyone lucky enough to see them.

A Word of Advice

If you haven’t served MsSupreme yet, do yourself a favor and click here to start now. I can confidently say you’ll thank me later. Her beauty, dominance, and sheer presence make her one of the most unique and captivating Goddesses in financial domination.

MsSupreme is not just a Goddess—she’s an experience. Don’t miss the opportunity to serve her.