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The Art Of Chasing Slaves

The Art Of Chasing Slaves

As you all can imagine, I often talk with other slaves about domination in general and about Goddesses. One of the things that always come up is: “damn I wish my Goddess would contact me now, and remind me how powerful She is”. That’s why I thought of writing about this..because hey… I love it as well!

First things first: being chased by your Goddess is TOTALLY different than being chased by a Goddess you’ve never met before.

A Goddess chasing an unknown slave is, basically, just looking for new slaves in the most pathetic way. Hint: this is WRONG and NO real Goddess will EVER do this. No one of the Goddesses I’ve ever served did this, …and certainly, I will never serve someone acting in such a pathetic way.

On the other hand, once a certain kind of “relationship” has been established, being chased at the right moment, in the right way, is exactly what we, slaves, always crave for.

The right way to be chased

Basically, it’s all a game of things like… often but not too often, sending pics but not all the time, in a sexy way but only every now and then, …in a few words? Something like a constant “tease and denial”.
A Goddess constantly showing the slave Her power, without giving him the impression that he actually matters to her. Making him know that he’s not forgotten, but that he might easily end up being like that if he stops doing what he’s supposed to do.
Because let’s face it: if the Goddess makes the slave feel he’s important for Her, he might end up losing interest. He will see her less powerful and start looking for other Goddesses.

There is a very thin line between feeling chased and feeling needed. Crossing that line might ruin the slave loyalty altogether.
Chasing him should also be done at different times of the day. I know this might sound stupid…but think about it. If the Goddess only gets in touch with her slave at a certain time of the day, the slave will start feeling “safe” during the rest of the day…and that should not happen. We need to always feel trapped, during the whole day. Receiving the casual message at work, for example, is always a huge turn on and, at the same time, a very scary thing: perfect chasing technique, basically.
Chasing should start slowly, increasing as the “relationship” goes on, as the intimacy increases…and as the ways to interact increase: first it could just skype, then it could be e-mail, WhatsApp…

Not all slaves deserve this

This is important, and I really can’t say this enough: only slaves that know their place and their role should have the privilege to be chased. Time wasters should never ever be contacted first by the Goddess (for obvious reasons), and even slaves that pay should start to be chased bit by bit as long as they keep spoiling the Goddess.
I really think being chased is a HUGE privilege, and only a few slaves actually deserve it.
That’s why I immediately wrote that only when a certain kind of “relationship” is in place, chasing should start.

Wrapping up

First of all, my words are not rules written in stone: this all just my opinion, and please feel free to write “this is bulls**t” in comments if you feel like it.
But one thing is true: being chased is part of all the most solid and longer Goddess/slave relationships. Because a chased slave is a slave that doesn’t escape, and because a Goddess that knows how to chase, is ALWAYS a truly powerful and dangerous Goddess.

What do you think?

Am i really a slave…or just a hopeless wanker?

Am i really a slave…or just a hopeless wanker?

Some would argue that the difference between a wanker and a slave is not that big: I mean, in the end, it’s all about getting pleasure here…isn’t it? But a few days ago I faced a situation that made me start thinking seriously about this difference and which of those two I belong to.

I just had finished a session with a Goddess (a really great session, to be honest) and, out of the blue, another Goddess sent me a message on Skype.

“this would be the perfect time for you to worship my feet in nylon”

I didn’t worship Her feet since a long time actually because I could never see her online… so yeah, this would have been a chance to don’t miss…. But there was a big problem. I had just exploded a few minutes earlier, I wasn’t excited at all (physically at least, if you know what I mean)…and I felt like it would have been a total waste to have a session at that moment.

What’s the point in having a session, if you are not excited? If she can’t keep you on the edge? If you can’t…well… be hard for Her? To me, it doesn’t make sense, or at least it takes away a huge part of the joy in the session itself… but… does this make me a wanker or a slave?

What would have a real slave answered? Would have he started a session just for the pleasure of making his Goddess happy? Does this make me a bad slave?

What do you think?

 

A famous slave? Really?

A famous slave? Really?

I know what you are thinking by reading the title of this post, and it’s the same thing for me. WTF? A slave now can be…famous? Well…apparently that can happen.

Believe it or not, I recently got a message from two journalists that wanted to interview me.

First one was David Wilson, from the International Edition of South China Morning Post. He was writing an article about Financial Domination fetish in Asia, and he wanted to know a few things from a slave point of view.

The article went online in May, too bad he didn’t put a link to my site: The Findom Fetish in Asia

Next one was Natasha Fedorenko from Wonderzine, an online Russian Magazine. Her interview was longer than the one David made me. She asked way more questions, and at the beginning wanted to do it on Skype. Of course, I opted for an answer via email, considering I don’t have that much privacy at home.

Funny enough, even that article went online in May: “«Я заставляю мужчин голодать»: Кто такие финансовые доминатрикс и их рабы“. I don’t know Russian so I had to use Google Translator. Again, no link to my blog, but anyway…I guess that’s how it works…

So…with these two, now I had been interviewed four times since I started this blog: Vice.Com and the Italian forum “My Fetish Room” being the other two. What do I get from them? well…I can’t deny the fact that, somehow, things like this are actually making me feel good…kinda feeding my ego i guess…even if, obviously, none of those articles (with the exception of the one for the Italian fetish forum) are there to put the slave image in a good light.

For the rest of the world, we are, basically, a bunch of idiots throwing money at girls for no specific reason. But who cares… in a way it’s still a good thing that they speak about this fetish we have. What do you think?

P.S. if you want to read the other interviews, links are on my “About me” page.

When she gets on your nerves

When she gets on your nerves

This is just a post to shake off the anger …so don’t expect anything wise or entertaining.

Why, why, WHY does she need to do the ONE thing that gets on my nerves? Even if I KEEP telling her I hate when she does it, when she says those things?

Who? My wife of course, who else? It’s basically a stupid thing, but it gets on my nerves and put me in an awful mood…so now I’m here, at comp around 2 am at night, without NO intention to go to sleep (Hell I’m too angry) or to do anything nasty… Yeah, because I’m even in a bad mood to go and worship Goddesses.

Why can’t she f**ing stop? Shit, i hate her when she goes on like this!!!!

 

Making Money in Financial Domination. Here’s how.

Making Money in Financial Domination. Here’s how.

The amount of “Goddesses Wannabe” is getting out of control. I get dozens of pathetic messages from “so called” Goddesses. And all these messages show is they have no clue about what it means to be a Goddess these days. And I DO hope some of them will actually read this…so see this as something like an open letter to goddesses wannabe.

Let me make it clear to you: You need to learn from the best Goddesses out there.

I’m not suggesting you COPY them of course (i hate copycats), but COME ON…if they are so successful if they have so much money if their name is everywhere… MAYBE they did something good?

And don’t start telling me they have been lucky or they are not as great as they want to show. If you do, you are being envious of their success.

Shut up and listen, I’m about to give you a tip that will make your life change for the best. What’s the tip? Keep reading.

So how do you copy the best ones out there? How do you know EXACTLY how they did it? Well, this is your lucky day!

One of them, the most famous Financial Dominatrix out there, decided to help you! She wrote a step by step guide on how to make money in Financial Domination! And guess what? What I always thought is actually the same she says.
You don’t LOOK for slaves, instead, you WORK HARD to make yourself noticed out there. THEN slaves will come to you.

The one I’m talking about is Ceara Lynch  (also producer of a movie about financial domination) and this is the guide she wrote:

How To Make Money as a Financial Dominatrix

Read it once, twice, as many times as you need to understand it. Because she wrote it after her personal experience, not out of nowhere. What she says there WORKS.

It’s as simple as that…amazing right? You need to work hard to be a successful financial dominatrix.
Or you can sit back on your royal ass, contact hundreds of potential slaves every day and earn a few hundred euros per week.
But didn’t you tell me, last time we spoke, that you are like the best out there?
Well…move your ass and show me that you are indeed the best.
How much did you spend for Christmas presents?

How much did you spend for Christmas presents?

That’s a pretty common question these days: we all make presents at Christmas, hence we all end up, sooner or later, talking about how much we’ve spent.

But for a MoneySlave, that’s an even more important question. How much did you spend? How many Goddesses did you send a Christmas gift to? Which one did you send the biggest one? Did you use her wishlist or just sent her cash?

I’ve always been curious about this… but never really had an open discussion with other slaves. So why not starting now?

Let’s discuss this in the forum

Regardless of how much you’ve spent, i just hope you made Her happy…and that She knows you are a slave that can be worth Her time. That’s all we want…their time, isn’t it?

The most dangerous words

The most dangerous words

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It’s late at night, i’m horny as usual but no one is around (plus, i can’t really spend in this period) so i ended up browsing the web with no particular path and then… i started thinking.. what’s the most powerful thing She could tell me? What’s THE thing She could say that would lead me to do anything for Her?

I imagine the scene…She’s right there in front of me, dressed in an elegant way, with a black pair of pantyhose and high heel shoes. Her left shoe dangling from the top her toes. Our session has been going for a good time now, but somehow i’m still able to control myself. Then…

What if She orders me to do something and then adds to it…

Do it or i will NEVER allow you to see me again

How could ANY of us be strong there? How could we not end up doing anything She asks? If She’s the one, if She’s the one you end up thinking a lot during the day…could you live without being able to see Her ever again? Could you even think of Her ignoring you FOREVER?

The problem of not being loyal

The problem of not being loyal

not-loyal

I’ve always said i am not (and never will be) a loyal slave: i act out of instinct, always trying to control myself only to running to spoil a Goddess as soon as something “ticks” inside my head. Of course i don’t serve ANY Goddess, and i consider myself capable of spoiling only those that are really worth it (at least in my brain)…but still.

Each time i spoil one of them, i end up feeling guilty with all the others. Of course i could never spoil them all (even if i wish i could), and i know that…but i do feel guilty.

It’s like the other night: after a long period of abstinence because of personal reasons, i suddenly got weak again and couldn’t stop myself. I HAD to spoil Her, it felt right, it felt good, it felt like the only possible thing.

But after that… the regret. Why Her, and why not others? What will they think about me? Will they be mad at me? How can i explain them that it was just a one time, and that i still won’t be able to spoil them for a long time?

I don’t know if i’m making any sense here…but that’s the way i feel today…

Tonight i will fall. Again.

Tonight i will fall. Again.

fall-tonight

Recently i wrote about my financial problems, and that i would have not have any session or spending for some months.

But i’m too weak.

And that’s why i know tonight i’m going to fall again and spoil Her. Recently i was finding more and more difficult to stay away but, luckily, no Goddess ever contacted me ordering to serve Her or anything (at least none of those Goddesses i already fall for, “my” Goddesses). That till this morning when i got this message:

It’s time to crawl back to me
Tonight you will spoil me
I accept only yes as an answer…

And all i could think of was… “i can’t wait to be there tonight”. I will do anything to be free and available to spoil Her. It’s my duty… and it’s in my nature.

I f***ing need it.

Blackmail: 4 ways to escape from it

Blackmail: 4 ways to escape from it

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Blackmail is one of the most exciting and controversial fetishes in my opinion, surely one of the closer ones to illegal activity: believe it or not, it’s illegal to blackmail someone, even if it’s a consensual “game”. If the victim goes to a judge saying he got convinced in doing it, most probably the judge will rule in his favor but…

How many of us could (and would want to) sue one of these Goddesses? I mean…first of all it would be stupid because we were the one that wanted it in first place and, secondarily, how can you run after someone you know almost nothing about or lives in a different country?

But yet i get from time to time messages from more or less desperate slaves, saying this or that Goddess keeps blackmailing them even if they don’t want to go on, that they risk all their life savings and so on…

How do you stop Her from blackmailing you?

In a few words: it’s complicated and it works only if she is smart enough to understand when it’s the right time to take a step back.
Good news: all the best Goddesses are of course intelligent and smart enough.

So the first rule is: never play blackmail with a newbie, with a Goddess who’s around since not so long or that no one ever heard of. Most probably she is too inexperienced to even play that game in first place.

Ignoring the fact that she can or cannot understand, there are indeed a few ways you can approach the problem.

1 – The Joke

Next time she contacts you, start acting funny. Act as she is just a friend. Tell her jokes, act as if this is all a total joke for you and laugh about it. Keep doing that, and if she doesn’t get the message, end the conversation (smiling) saying you gotta go. Leave her with the doubt: “Does he really care? Will i get anything from this?”

2 – The Change

In a calm, relaxed way tell her you don’t want to play this game anymore. Be sure to use the word “game” more than once, and to offer her alternatives. Things like “i love the time i spend with you, and i want to be your slave forever. But i’d like to play a different game, as blackmail really doesn’t give me any excitement at all anymore.”. Even tell her blackmailing is boring you, and that you want to spend your time with her doing something better. Never stop acting calm, and if she insists in the nasty way, leave her with a firm “ok, whatever. I’ll go visit someone else” and go. After this, never return to Her unless she is the one getting in touch with you. In that case, keep playing this part.

3 – The Silence

Stop contacting her or answering her messages. Ignore her completely (and i mean completely). Lead her to believe you don’t care anymore, or you are totally busy doing something else. If she has other slaves, she will leave you alone and move on. But warning: this works ONLY if she is smart enough to know that she shouldn’t really do anything “seriously”. If she is stupid, or inexperienced, this could easily lead her in using the info she has of you to contact your relatives or similar to get a reaction from you.

4 – The Threat

This is the worst way to end it, because doing this you won’t be able to visit Her anymore, not even for other kind of fun. She will HATE you after this, so be careful if this is not how you want things to end with Her.
Tell her you will report all this to the site she works with. Remember, for those sites a customer is the holy grail, and blackmail is illegal. If you tell the site that she blackmailed you without your consent, she will face big problems with the site, her account could be closed, her money could be kept. If she doesn’t work on a cam site, tell her you rill report her to the site you used to send money to her with (Paypal, Payoneer or whatever). Either way, be sure to tell her this is illegal and you won’t stop till she faces serious issues. Act as you are more dangerous than her. And leave the conversation in a sudden way, with one last bad sentence like “Ok, you’ll see!” and disappear. After that, don’t contact her for a long time. She won’t contact you as well and you’ll be free.

So will i be surely free after this?

No. These are all the methods that came to my mind the first time i faced an issue like this: it happened to me a few times already, and each time i used the method of these that i thought was more appropriate for the situation and the Goddess involved. But that doesn’t mean that i can be 100% sure these methods will work in your case! it can even be that She won’t stop…so be careful. Always.